I think most couples take each other for granted and feel that once they are married, it’s alright not to keep telling each other how much I love you as it’s understood. It has been proved that the longer you are engaged or in a relationship with someone, the more likely you are to switch from the “passionate” kind of love into a “compassionate” love.
The most common reason married couples lose their passion for each other and stop being sexually intimate is a pursuer-distancer style of intimacy that develops over time in the marriage. If there are complaints, doubts and dead-end arguments, angry outbursts, crying spells in your marriage and there is a run of no freedom, no appreciation, no joy, no satisfaction, no positivity; then your relationship is crumbing and you need to rekindle the passion in your marriage.
If all other facets of the relationship are good, then couples can view this slow development as something absolutely normal. It doesn’t mean that the romantic life in your marriage cannot be rekindled. Here are 11 ways to rekindle passion into your marriage
- Respect your partner
A step towards rekindling passionate love in your marriage is learning how to respect your partner all over again. There may be feelings of anger, grief, fear and resentment still in your heart because of your past but you need to let it go. You need to love and respect your partner for their personality and who they really are.
- Physical Touch is Essential
Holding hands, hugs, and tender touch are great ways to affirm your love for your partner. Physical affection sets the stage for sexual touch that is focused on pleasure. It has also been proved that holding hands and hugging releases “the happiness fluid- Oxytocin”. Also it a great way of relieving the stress of the day’s work and cortisol built up in the body. Holding your partner’s hand is a good way to spark the love in your marriage.
- Build up Tension
It has been observed that our brains experience more pleasure when the anticipation of the reward goes on for some time before we receive it. So spend time during foreplay, share your sexual desires and fantasies, change locations, change sex styles and try as much as possible to make the sex you have with your partner more tensed, in-depth and romantic.
- Go on dates
Going on a date goes a long way in rekindling the passion in your marriage . Going on dinner dates can act as a substitute for expensive gifts in a relationship. Try to understand that small things matter, even a candle light dinner in a quiet place can be the date night to rekindle love in your relationship. Also, Make sure you go outside together. You can’t solve a relationship problem in the environment in which it was initially created. Plan time to take walks in the park, a hike in the woods. Make sure you get a new perspective.
- Share and vitalize your dreams
Revive and revitalize the things you have always wanted from your partner at the beginning of your relationship. Talk about the plans you seem to have forgotten. Don’t criticize each other’s dreams, just listen and hear the dreams of your partner.
- Understand the goals of the marriage
Contemporary spouses are expected to help in the development of each other’s psychological, emotional, social, physical features and also needs. When your needs are not met, your feelings get hurt and you get back in retaliation. To rekindle the passionate love in a marriage, you have to understand the goals of being in the marriage in the first place.
- Go on a another Honeymoon
Going on a second (or third or fourth) honeymoon might be your opportunity to reacquaint yourselves with each other from the stresses of household chores and the work deadlines. This will help to rekindle the passion in your marriage. During honeymoons, your sex life is revived and revitalized. By doing so, the passion in a marriage is hereby rekindled.
- Plan out the time for sexual intimacy
Plan out time, plan out the location for the sexual intimacy between you and your partner. Try as much as possible to avoid talking about relationship problems and household chores in the bedroom. Sexual arousal falls when we are distracted and stressed.
- Foster your emotional intimacy
A healthy marriage is built on emotional intimacy. If you are hoping to rekindle the love spark in your relationship, first improve your emotional connection between you and your partner. You can foster emotional intimacy by expressing the love you have for your partner by buying gifts, going on dates, surprises e.t.c.
- Explore new sexual pleasures
Another way to rekindle passion in your marriage is to try different ways, styles, positions, and place of having sex, instead of the same boring routine sex you have been having all these while You should try to be more sensitive, affectionate, sexy, and romantic towards each other, and rekindle the passion you once had back into your marriage.